Yvonne Ellis

 


COMFORT ZONE TRAP

The comfort zone is a nice cushion of a place. It’s safe and predictable, requires nothing from you apart from just being there. It sounds like a dream but in fact is a nightmare for people like me that are creative, want more out of life and love new challenges. I was stuck for many years and recently I took a risk to escape it.

I didn’t realise it was a trap at first; I thought it was just how the cycle of life was. You work, get paid at the end of each month, pay the bills. Rinse and repeat. I worked hard, had very good jobs and learned great skills from them, but they were never in line with things I was passionate about or led me towards fulfilling my purpose, which is to empower people. I worked in traditional employment (where you’re signed to a company as a permanent member of staff to do a specific role) for over twenty years and instead of feeling empowered by my work experiences it was quite the opposite. I was not growing professionally and slowly I became discontent. I realized in order to have the career I wanted I would need to leave the comfort zone of traditional paid employment. I have finally done it and yes, it is scary!

I know being in the comfort zone trap is not a place many people choose by choice. Sometimes low self-esteem; confidence and lack of self- belief can get in the way of taking a chance to try new things. Also, fear of finances, what other people might think or how to begin to work towards your goals may put you off, so I want to share with you 3 tips to set you on your way.

Have a goal

Before you can escape you need to have an idea of what you want to escape to! Is your goal to start your own business or go back into education to gain a new qualification? Write down what your goal is. Don’t worry if it seems too big or crazy that means you are on the right track! Remember if it is simple to achieve it probably means you are still hoping to stay in the comfort zone!

Have a plan

Now you have your goal it is time to create a plan. In my recent videos ‘procrastination and the perfect time’ and my book review on Joanna Penn’s ‘Career change’ (See links for videos at end of article) I shared how I went from being unhappy in my job in 2016 to 15 months later leaving and launching my own company YEME Empowerment. The key thing I did was to create a plan of what I needed to start and the process it would take for me to get there, I also set timescales to hold myself accountable to executing the plan. Write down all the things you feel you will need to get to your goal and then research. This will help you either define or change your route.

See your vision

There will be times where discouragement sets in and it may seem it will take too long to reach your goal that is why I love vision boards! Usually, this is done in the form of cutting out pictures from magazines or newspapers and then glued onto large art card but if you cannot do that you can do a mini one on an a4 card. If you are not a creative person maybe write down on a piece of paper a statement of how it would feel to reach your goal. The purpose of this exercise is that you stick it on your wall or somewhere you can see it every day to keep you motivated and focused on your dreams and goals.

If this is something you need help with YEME Empowerment offers an empowerment coaching service visit the page to see how I can help you.http://www.yemeempowerment.com/empowerment-coaching/

It is possible to escape the comfort zone trap but it is a choice that besides the 3 tips I have shared with you require a change of mindset and a determined mind. If you are determined to get started today, a great adventure is waiting for you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

DREAMS DO COME TRUE

Seven years I waited for this moment. It was not easy to get here, but finally, my book Daughter ARISE that was originally released in 2010 is now available in selected Waterstones bookstores. I cannot describe to you what this moment feels like. The anticipation and excitement of walking up to the department where my book is shelved was an unforgettable experience; dreams do come true.

Originally when the first edition of my book was released the book company that I had a publishing contract with was supposed to pursue this avenue, but things never materialised (long story!). For a while, I gave up on the dream as it seemed unattainable but when I launched my own company YEME Empowerment, one of my main goals was to re-release the second edition of my book as an independent self-published Author, and that energised me to pursue this dream again.

The process to get book retailers to stock a book as a self-published Author is not easy, after all, there are many Authors trying to achieve the same goal, and only so many books that a bookstore shelf can hold. Money, as they say, makes the world go round and in the book world that basically translates to ‘will the book sell?’ I believe my book will continue to sell. Over the last seven years, I have steadily built a platform of knowledge and expertise based on successfully overcoming many challenges, and relationships with people who are interested in my journey and this has allowed a new audience to be introduced me and my book. I feel extremely blessed that my book holds a space in any Waterstones store. I have learned a lot about the book publishing process over the years and it is something I plan to share with people who are interested in writing and publishing a book that signs up for my YEME book starter workshop that I will be launching in the near future. http://www.yemeempowerment.com/publishing/

As I got caught up in the emotion of the moment, a lovely lady approached me and asked if I was the Author of the book, to which I replied yes. After briefly telling her what the book about she ended up buying it and asked me to sign it and we took a photo! It was a very impromptu book signing, the icing on the cake of a perfect moment! There is nothing sweeter than overcoming the challenges and odds that situations, people or circumstances present; as it is in these moments that character and resilience are built.

The stores that my book is not physically on the shelf in, you can order from any Waterstones store or on their online site. I am enjoying this moment and plan to visit the other stores to see my book on the shelf and take selfies. My encouragement to you is to never give up on your dreams. You will need to believe it can happen and believe in yourself, it will require sacrifice, may take a timely route or be dependant on other things to come into place but if you keep focused it can happen; I have the proof. Dreams do come true.

Check out my first Waterstones book signing here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UKSRVNJzFl0

Yvonne

THE POWER 2 BLOG

Recently I celebrated two years as a blogger, what an achievement!

It was all so different a couple of years ago. Back in February 2017 in a blog post titled ‘Happy birthday’ that I wrote on the ‘Hope in the Future blog’ for my organisation Daughter Arise, I shared how I went through a period of lack of confidence and self-belief and because of that my blogging life was a non- starter for a long time. I struggled to believe that writing about my life experiences could be of benefit to others, but here I am two years later presenting you with this new blog called ‘The empowered Life’. The power of two very different blogs designed to deliver insightful relatable content.

It took real courage and determination for me to push past my self-doubt. I had to adopt a mind over matter approach so to speak and that got me to my first milestone of blogging for a year. It was wonderful to get to that stage and infused with my passion to write about topics close to my heart kept me motivated and brimming with ideas. The Empowered Life blog and YouTube channel is all about encouraging, inspiring and empowering people to dream big, do bold things and to challenge them to think outside of the box in terms of what they want to achieve in life.

Blogging has helped me to develop consistency by making sure I post blogs on time and has brought many benefits to my life. Not only has it extended my writing skills, it has given me confidence and inspiration to think outside the box in terms of creativity, and it all started from tapping into and developing my gift. I have grown to love writing and blogging in whatever form, it has and will always be a love of mine.

What I hope to communicate through my blogs is a process of turning the challenges of life into an empowering platform of transformation and self-discovery. Hidden under our experiences, good or bad is the opportunity to use them for the betterment of others, and blogging is one of the ways that I can facilitate that. So here is to many more years’ of me blogging and I hope through sharing via this powerful platform, it helps inspire change in many peoples lives and that is worth celebrating.

Yvonne

SPRING CLEAN YOUR LIFE!

The spring season is a time of year synonymous with making a fresh start. Many people all over the world take out their marigolds, feather dusters and cleaning equipment to give their home a spring clean and declutter, but how many people think about spring-cleaning their life? More often than not because of comfort or lack of time we sometimes allow certain areas of life to become neglected or overlooked, that is why it is important to take time to reflect and take stock of your life in order to maximise your potential. It does involve making changes, tough decisions and hard work to get the results you want.

So what is a life spring clean? Basically, it is looking at key areas of your life and exploring ways to revitalise or change aspects that lay stagnate or hindering your progress. This can be hard for people to do especially if you don’t know what areas to look at. So I want to share with you three areas that might need a ‘spring clean’ and a key tip on where to make a start!

 

Relationships: If you have friends, family or associates in your life that put you down, criticise you or generally negative with their outlook on life then it is time to ask yourself the question “what benefit do they bring to my life?” In order to grow you need people around you who want to see you succeed that support and encourage you to be the best you can be, but if you surround yourself with toxic people it will ruin your confidence and plans. People that do not champion themselves often cannot champion and encourage others.

Tip: Distance yourself from any relationships that are negative and concentrate on relationships that are encouraging and supportive.

 

Career: Are you unhappy with your job? Does it make you feel unchallenged, de-motivated or frustrated? Do you wake up on a Monday morning miserable before you have even left your house? Then it is time to re-evaluate. I recently left traditional employment because I had outgrown the job and also to build my company YEME Empowerment. If you are not looking to step out and start your own business you can review your current employment. The majority of the time for most people is spent at work so it is important that where possible you make your job work for you.

Tip: If you work for an employer and want to further enhance your skills, find out if any courses are available to you in support this. Doing a course may also add value to your current post and could even earn you a pay rise. If not look at other jobs that may be of interest to you or develop yourself further by doing an online or evening course to set you on track to the career you want. A key thing I have learnt is in whatever you do, do it in line with something you are passionate about.

 

Health and Diet: Sometimes when people are unhappy and bored they tend to overeat or not eat things that are good for them- I have been there! After years of healthy eating and maintaining my weight, I went through a period two years ago when I started to snack out. Fortunately, because I can quickly regulate myself when going off track, I banished the sugary foods, stepped up my exercise and dealt with the causes of why I was overeating. Certain environments don’t help and it is hard when your job requires you to sit at a desk all day. The trip to the photocopier is the most exercise some people get, but that can be turned around.

Tip: What would motivate you to embrace a healthier lifestyle? Why are you eating the wrong foods? Identifying this is key to being able to stay away from temptation and help you embrace a healthier lifestyle. There are plenty of free diet tips and health mindset advice on the Internet. Swap unhealthy snacks with other options and drink plenty of water! Also on your lunch break, you could take a brisk walk. It recommended you exercise five times a week for 20 minutes a time. Remember small steps lead to big improvements.

There are many other areas of life that could benefit from a spring clean. YEME Empowerment offers empowerment coaching to help you work towards your goals so please get in touch via the empowerment coaching page http://www.yemeempowerment.com/empowerment-coaching/.

Your life spring clean may take several months before you see any changes but it is important to make a start. Give it a try today!

Leave a comment below- what areas of your life do you think need a ‘life spring clean?’

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VISION

It was after a speaking engagement several years ago that the spark of exploring my capabilities was awoken by the words of a lady who was in the audience at one of my talks. “You have the gift of empowering others,” she said. I didn’t recognise what I had at the time as a ‘gift of empowerment,’ but I knew I had something special to offer the world from the reactions of people who heard me share my life experiences and the countless conversations I have had since with people who said I encouraged or helped them in some way. I realised over time I have the ability to inspire hope in the lives of people who have been through life challenging events and make an impact for the better. Inspiring, encouraging and influencing others is not something that can be learnt or studied for, though knowledge can enhance and increase it; it is my belief that it naturally comes from within.