Yvonne Ellis

 


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Discipline the key to success

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Happy New Year to you and welcome to 2020!

Discipline the key to success. As we begin the start of a new decade, it is the perfect time to set new goals. This is the year to have the courage to go for the things you really want. In whatever you are trying to do: lose weight, build your business, develop new habits or save money. Discipline is the key to success because it will take you to the next level.

I was reflecting on my achievements last year. As I sat looking at my vision board at things I have and yet to achieve, the common theme to reach my goals, dreams and aspirations is discipline.

 I must admit I have struggled with discipline. But over the last few weeks as I have spent time studying and applying what I have learned to my life.  I am already reaping great benefits that include a changed mindset and more focus.

Discipline is a mindset habit. It has to be developed and involves being intentional in the things you set out to do. Show up and commit whether you feel like it or not. It requires focus.

It is not a word that naturally makes people jump for joy, because most people associate the word discipline with rigid rules. But there is no escaping it. Sooner or later it must come into the equation in all that you do; if you want to achieve your goals, dream and aspirations.

Medicine tastes unpleasant but is required to feel better. Certainly the same applies to discipline. It must be applied to produce positive results. Here are five tips to help you.

Set goals

Goals are essential part of planning for your life. It is not the number of goals you have, it is about accomplishing the goal set. One goal is better than none. Write them down, make it manageable. It does not mean make it easy! Set a time frame for your goal to be completed. Hold yourself accountable.

Have a routine

Plan your day. Maybe do it the night before if it helps. Do not drift aimlessly. You are setting the framework of discipline. Planning tools such as a diary or wall planner are really helpful.

Just do it

Do not put off until tomorrow what you can do today because this is where procrastination creeps in. We have all done this at some point in life, but to develop discipline you must take action.

Hold yourself accountable

Conduct daily and weekly check-ins. Have you done what you said you would do? If not why? Hold yourself accountable. Reflect on progress. It will help you keep an eye on yourself. Write it down in a diary or journal what is and isn’t working. Make adjustments if necessary.

Reward yourself

Make the medicine of discipline easier to swallow. No matter how big or small acknowledge your achievements. A reward is part of success.

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Dealing with Discouragement

I went through a period of discouragement this year. I lacked focus, I was inconsistent in doing things that I had planned and I second-guessed myself. After much reflection, I identified the reason why I felt discouraged; unmet  (and unrealistic) expectations, fatigue and focusing on things outside of my control.

As a new entrepreneur sixteen months into a new way of life, I have discovered that discouragement is part and parcel of the journey into the unknown. It is very difficult when you are doing things you have not done before. It can leave you wondering if you are on the right track, especially when you are on such an individual journey. Yes, there are some things that entrepreneurs commonly experience, but each journey is personal.

It is important to recognise the signs of discouragement because it can lead to negative thoughts. I was able to see the positive in my experience and I became a stronger and more resilient woman. I want to share with you 3 things that helped me get my groove back.

Rest

I am building a new business, I am a Wife and Mother, Founder of a charitable organisation, and many other things. I juggle many different balls and work long hours in between working for clients and managing my home. It is very easy to always be on the go, bouncing from one task to the next. I have found this not a productive thing to do. A change is as good as a rest as they say. Now when I am tired or worn down I am not afraid to say “this can wait”. It is amazing how taking rest can refresh your mind; It gave me a different perspective on things.

Focus on the positive

What I found helpful was reminiscing on my achievements and this encouraged me because at one point they seemed impossible. This helped me refocus on my long-term vision and goals. I made time each day to engage in activities that I love. This helped me to feel encouraged again.

Letting go

One of the biggest contributors to my season of discouragement was focusing on things outside of my control. It is very easy to think that you have to be in control of everything as an entrepreneur. It is true that I have a certain responsibility to “make things happen”. I am only in charge to an extent. I have learned to let go and let God.

There is always something to learn from all experiences. Discouragement “shall pass”. Do not give up. Recognise it for what it is, part of a process to building you.

Keep Plodding on

KEY TO SUCCESSFUL EVENT

The key to a successful event is made up of a number of things. It is the ingredients that make a memorable event (for all the right reasons!)

Recently I was Event Manager for the foster carers reception. This event celebrates the fantastic work and dedication that Foster Carers do to look after children in council authority care. Awards, a three-course dinner, speeches and recognition of achievements marked the celebration of the evening. Even though I have done this event many times before, this was special for me. It was my first time doing it under my company YEME Empowerment. YEME Empowerment events are all about bringing together people to celebrate the empowerment in lives for the good. The evening went well. Over 200 hundred people attended and the feedback from guests and staff was amazing. Every year after each event I always reflect and ask myself “what could I do better?”

Regardless of the wonderful compliments and feedback, which is always appreciated, I continue to aspire to do everything with excellence and maintain a high standard. This has always been my aim as an event manager, and I have learned a lot from coordinating and planning events of different sizes. I believe the key to a successful event is seventy per cent planning and organisation and thirty per cent execution. If you want to be an Event Manager, you have to think on your feet and deliver under pressure. I want to share with you 3 key tips  I have found important in planning an event, whether large or small.

Good communication and relationships – In the first instance, this is most important with the client. I build a good relationship with the client by listening. Good communication builds trust. Without trust, it will be hard for the client to trust you with the vision of their event. Listen to their ideas; write down the details of what they want and ask questions. If something in the brief might prove difficult to accommodate or needs to be changed discuss with the client. Part of my job is to look for alternatives and present options and solutions. It could be presenting an idea they have not thought of before. It is also of the same importance to build good communication with suppliers, attendees and anyone else involved in the event.

Efficiency – Planning details and getting tasks done on time is key to productivity and key to a successful event. Being efficient will help you know where you are at all times in regards to delivering the event. It, therefore, helps make my role easier so that I can ensure the event will be delivered to the client expectations.

Flexibility – Changes can arise at any time when dealing with different people and elements involved in planning an event. I always think ahead and have a plan B because even on the day unexpected things can happen. You cannot be rigid in your plans as an event manager, you have to be able to adapt to changes quickly!

It takes time to get a great balance to create the perfect ambience for an event. Hard work and dedication is a must. But when I see the end result of a happy client and the guests enjoying the moment, it is really rewarding.

Visit the events page below to see what YEME Empowerment can do for you!

http://www.yemeempowerment.com/event-management/

MY FIRST NETWORKING EVENT

I attended my first networking event last Saturday. I attempted to network twice before but cancelled, so I decided it was time to face my fears. Armed with my newfound courage, business cards and Lauren Messiah advice on how introverts should dress for networking events (according to Lauren, a Fashion stylist on Youtube, dressing in something that stands out helps people to initiate a conversation with you). I ventured out at 6.20am to Training Kings Christian Network business breakfast in Kensington with the hopes of connecting with other like-minded people.

The day did not get off to a good start. I left my ticket at home because I decided not to bring my purse (only bank card and change). I got to my destination tube station on time  but I could not find the hotel (I am notoriously bad with directions!)

Besides having a really nice breakfast, I really enjoyed the event. I got to meet other business owners and those about to embark on the journey to starting their own business. I found it encouraging listening to their stories of stepping out into the unknown world of starting a business, their journey to finding their purpose and the passion they conveyed when talking about what they do.

The guest speaker, Susan Jacobs, a wealth consultant spoke about steps to creating wealth and how this can be applied to our business. Hearing her presentation got me thinking more strategically about how I am going to bring in income as a new company owner. I also learned that networking for business is imperative if I want my business to grow, as I could potentially be engaging with people that want to use YEME Empowerment services. I came away from the event inspired with a changed mindset towards networking and I plan is to attend their future events.

Would I network again? most definitely, as a matter of fact, I have another event to attend on August 29th. It might be a totally different experience but the social awkwardness that became my fear in attending networking events has gone. It was a day of many firsts as I also did my very first vlog (that was an interesting experience!) and interviewed my first guest.

What I also learnt is fear starts in the mind and that it is only when we face the reality of whatever we fear that it can be dispelled. I may have let other possible opportunities pass me by but not anymore. My first networking event was a success and I plan to build on it.

COMFORT ZONE TRAP

The comfort zone is a nice cushion of a place. It’s safe and predictable, requires nothing from you apart from just being there. It sounds like a dream but in fact is a nightmare for people like me that are creative, want more out of life and love new challenges. I was stuck for many years and recently I took a risk to escape it.

I didn’t realise it was a trap at first; I thought it was just how the cycle of life was. You work, get paid at the end of each month, pay the bills. Rinse and repeat. I worked hard, had very good jobs and learned great skills from them, but they were never in line with things I was passionate about or led me towards fulfilling my purpose, which is to empower people. I worked in traditional employment (where you’re signed to a company as a permanent member of staff to do a specific role) for over twenty years and instead of feeling empowered by my work experiences it was quite the opposite. I was not growing professionally and slowly I became discontent. I realized in order to have the career I wanted I would need to leave the comfort zone of traditional paid employment. I have finally done it and yes, it is scary!

I know being in the comfort zone trap is not a place many people choose by choice. Sometimes low self-esteem; confidence and lack of self- belief can get in the way of taking a chance to try new things. Also, fear of finances, what other people might think or how to begin to work towards your goals may put you off, so I want to share with you 3 tips to set you on your way.

Have a goal

Before you can escape you need to have an idea of what you want to escape to! Is your goal to start your own business or go back into education to gain a new qualification? Write down what your goal is. Don’t worry if it seems too big or crazy that means you are on the right track! Remember if it is simple to achieve it probably means you are still hoping to stay in the comfort zone!

Have a plan

Now you have your goal it is time to create a plan. In my recent videos ‘procrastination and the perfect time’ and my book review on Joanna Penn’s ‘Career change’ (See links for videos at end of article) I shared how I went from being unhappy in my job in 2016 to 15 months later leaving and launching my own company YEME Empowerment. The key thing I did was to create a plan of what I needed to start and the process it would take for me to get there, I also set timescales to hold myself accountable to executing the plan. Write down all the things you feel you will need to get to your goal and then research. This will help you either define or change your route.

See your vision

There will be times where discouragement sets in and it may seem it will take too long to reach your goal that is why I love vision boards! Usually, this is done in the form of cutting out pictures from magazines or newspapers and then glued onto large art card but if you cannot do that you can do a mini one on an a4 card. If you are not a creative person maybe write down on a piece of paper a statement of how it would feel to reach your goal. The purpose of this exercise is that you stick it on your wall or somewhere you can see it every day to keep you motivated and focused on your dreams and goals.

If this is something you need help with YEME Empowerment offers an empowerment coaching service visit the page to see how I can help you.http://www.yemeempowerment.com/empowerment-coaching/

It is possible to escape the comfort zone trap but it is a choice that besides the 3 tips I have shared with you require a change of mindset and a determined mind. If you are determined to get started today, a great adventure is waiting for you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

SPRING CLEAN YOUR LIFE!

The spring season is a time of year synonymous with making a fresh start. Many people all over the world take out their marigolds, feather dusters and cleaning equipment to give their home a spring clean and declutter, but how many people think about spring-cleaning their life? More often than not because of comfort or lack of time we sometimes allow certain areas of life to become neglected or overlooked, that is why it is important to take time to reflect and take stock of your life in order to maximise your potential. It does involve making changes, tough decisions and hard work to get the results you want.

So what is a life spring clean? Basically, it is looking at key areas of your life and exploring ways to revitalise or change aspects that lay stagnate or hindering your progress. This can be hard for people to do especially if you don’t know what areas to look at. So I want to share with you three areas that might need a ‘spring clean’ and a key tip on where to make a start!

 

Relationships: If you have friends, family or associates in your life that put you down, criticise you or generally negative with their outlook on life then it is time to ask yourself the question “what benefit do they bring to my life?” In order to grow you need people around you who want to see you succeed that support and encourage you to be the best you can be, but if you surround yourself with toxic people it will ruin your confidence and plans. People that do not champion themselves often cannot champion and encourage others.

Tip: Distance yourself from any relationships that are negative and concentrate on relationships that are encouraging and supportive.

 

Career: Are you unhappy with your job? Does it make you feel unchallenged, de-motivated or frustrated? Do you wake up on a Monday morning miserable before you have even left your house? Then it is time to re-evaluate. I recently left traditional employment because I had outgrown the job and also to build my company YEME Empowerment. If you are not looking to step out and start your own business you can review your current employment. The majority of the time for most people is spent at work so it is important that where possible you make your job work for you.

Tip: If you work for an employer and want to further enhance your skills, find out if any courses are available to you in support this. Doing a course may also add value to your current post and could even earn you a pay rise. If not look at other jobs that may be of interest to you or develop yourself further by doing an online or evening course to set you on track to the career you want. A key thing I have learnt is in whatever you do, do it in line with something you are passionate about.

 

Health and Diet: Sometimes when people are unhappy and bored they tend to overeat or not eat things that are good for them- I have been there! After years of healthy eating and maintaining my weight, I went through a period two years ago when I started to snack out. Fortunately, because I can quickly regulate myself when going off track, I banished the sugary foods, stepped up my exercise and dealt with the causes of why I was overeating. Certain environments don’t help and it is hard when your job requires you to sit at a desk all day. The trip to the photocopier is the most exercise some people get, but that can be turned around.

Tip: What would motivate you to embrace a healthier lifestyle? Why are you eating the wrong foods? Identifying this is key to being able to stay away from temptation and help you embrace a healthier lifestyle. There are plenty of free diet tips and health mindset advice on the Internet. Swap unhealthy snacks with other options and drink plenty of water! Also on your lunch break, you could take a brisk walk. It recommended you exercise five times a week for 20 minutes a time. Remember small steps lead to big improvements.

There are many other areas of life that could benefit from a spring clean. YEME Empowerment offers empowerment coaching to help you work towards your goals so please get in touch via the empowerment coaching page http://www.yemeempowerment.com/empowerment-coaching/.

Your life spring clean may take several months before you see any changes but it is important to make a start. Give it a try today!

Leave a comment below- what areas of your life do you think need a ‘life spring clean?’